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Understanding The Sexual Healing Process – Introduction

For almost three years now I have been training in a form of emotion and body centred psychotherapy called Hakomi. This method, the life work of visionary Ron Kurtz who just recently passed away, is a synthesis of ancient spiritual … Continue reading

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The Journey to Erotic Self-expression

There are times in life when the erotic spark just disappears. The loss of a relationship is a good example. If one’s erotic life is inspired by a significant Other, then losing Them can be devastating. But loss, accompanied with … Continue reading

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Becoming A Somatic Sex Educator

The title of my website is Massage By Ki implies massage and you might wonder what the link is between massage and Somatic Sex Education. It seems like quite a jump. Telling my personal story of how I got into … Continue reading

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Erotic Education and Sex-Negativity

I often teach classes about sex – erotic massage, sexual communication, tantra and the like. Of course most people are just too anxious to even consider coming to a class about sex. Which leads me into a discussion on why … Continue reading

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Learning Massage, Learning to Live

This article was written by one of my erotic massage students, Paul. It’s inspiring! He has more writings on his blog The Listing Bucketeer *************************************** My wife and I have always enjoyed receiving a good massage. Mostly we’d fill the … Continue reading

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Honouring Desire

I’m going to start this post with a personal story. My spiritual journey started with Buddhist meditation. I had my first true spiritual energetic experience, a direct experience of God, while doing a 10-day silent meditation retreat. After that, for … Continue reading

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Advice for Men to Last Longer and Enjoy More Erotic Energy and Heart Connection

Being able to last as long as I like and choose when I have an orgasm is something that I have been working on mastering for a very long time. And to be honest, after years and thousands kegel exercises, … Continue reading

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7 Breaths To Erotic Aliveness

My clients tend to be very successful and busy with their career and their families. They need ways to relax and feel more erotically alive while on the go. Here’s a “micro-practice” I often share with them which I call … Continue reading

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Massage Yourself not Just Your Online Dating Profile

I have many friends who are searching for love and connection via online dating sites. My friends are spending hours flirting, chatting, writing emails, arranging dates, and “massaging their profiles” in their quest for love and sex. It’s a challenging … Continue reading

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Tips For Giving Great Sensual Touch

Giving great sensual touch with your hands is the most important sexual skill you can have.  If your sex life isn’t as satisfying as  you’d like it, before rushing off to get a new sex toy, try improving your touch … Continue reading

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Finding Pleasure

One of the joys of having a body is feeling pleasure. But how often, when we are having sex, are we actually feeling pleasure? I’ll use a personal story to make my point. Not long ago I was getting sexy … Continue reading

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