Author Archives: Ki

Thanks for not enduring touch that doesn’t feel good

I am always amazed and surprisingly delighted how little things make a big difference in having a satisfying intimate life. For example, this morning: I was cuddled up to my love in bed, both of us half asleep, my hand … Continue reading

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Sexual Healing – Part 3 – The Missing Experience

I’m continuing on with the explanation of my working definition of healing. Which, broken down looks like this: Healing is a process: in which a motivated client, in a strong relationship with a therapist, experiences painful emotions in regulated doses, … Continue reading

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Understanding Sexual Healing – Part 2

In a previous post I proposed a working definition of healing: “Healing is a process in which a motivated client, in a strong relationship with a therapist, experiences painful emotions in regulated doses, receives a missing experience, leading to the … Continue reading

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Casual, Committed or Conscious Sex

A recent email conversation with a friend of mine got me thinking about the differences between Casual, Committed and Conscious sex and how to get more good sex in general. My friend is a woman who is beautiful, smart, unattached … Continue reading

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Women Paying For Sex?!

This piece of writing is specifically directed toward heterosexual women but I hope there is something in it for you even if you’re not in that particular group. Traditionally the main consumers of paid sexual services have been men. There … Continue reading

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Finding the Road to ErosTown

This bit of writing is especially for couples. I’d like to make a distinction between Love and Eros. In my opinion most folks tend to confuse these two characters. Like they’re one and the same. My belief is that while … Continue reading

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Understanding the Sexual Healing Process – What is Healing Anyway – Part 1?

All right, I’m working on an synthesis of my knowledge and experience about sexual healing from the perspective of my own practice with my clients, which is a combination of erotic/sexual touch, mindfulness, and a form a body centred psychotherapy … Continue reading

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Bi-curious Exploration for Men

Last weekend I hosted a workshop called “Like a Pro” that was taught by Dr. Betty Martin from Seattle. Betty is my favourite teacher of intimacy skills. The class was geared to people like myself who use touch especially sensual … Continue reading

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