For many women the road to sexual empowerment and pleasure begins by healing the wounds of abuse. The numbers are staggering. 1 in 3 women are sexually abused as a child and 80% of the time it’s not by a stranger but rather by someone who should be trusted – a relative, friend, caregiver, teacher, coach or spiritual leader. It’s a cultural epidemic that is still not openly discussed.
Even more women are raped sometime in their lives. Those few women who are spared these injustices still have to live with systemic sexual violence: like being punished for innocently touching themselves as children; like religions that proclaim sexual pleasure as sinful and the body as dirty; like invasive medical procedures especially in child birth; like mass media that portrays unobtainable standards of beauty causing women to see themselves as ugly; like the rampant shaming of women who dare to enjoy sex (while for men it’s considered virile – what a sexist double standard!). The list goes on and on.
So all women in our society are survivors of sexual trauma to some degree. As sexual healers and educators we have seen first hand the courage of many women who have faced a history of unspeakable sexual abuse and with our help have been able to heal and have fulfilling sex and intimate lives.
We see the healing process as a somatic education process . Through mindful assisted study of your body sensations, emotions, thoughts and actions you’ll become aware of all the unconscious patterns that have arisen from your sexual wounding. Patterns that helped you survive the abuse but also that might be stopping the fullest nourishing aspects of your sexuality to be received and celebrated. We’ve written about the healing process extensively in our blog here, and here.
– forgive yourself and make new meanings about old abuse
– stay connected to your body, mind, emotions and actions in the here and now
– safely feel and regulate big emotions like terror, rage, shame and grief without becoming overwhelmed
– reclaim sexual energy and desire as good
– see your body as beautiful
– reclaim absolute sovereignty over your body
– own, know and communicate your desires and boundaries
– give and receive touch with enthusiastic consent
– savour and surrender to the gifts of sensual pleasure and human connection.
Somatic Sexual Healing leads to freedom. Freedom to celebrate your body, sexuality and desires. Freedom from fear, guilt and shame. Freedom to breathe and feel deeply. Freedom to be fully present in the Now with ecstatic joy
This Service is Offered By: Ki Bournes
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